There’s a lot of focus on labor and birth–understandably, because it’s an amazing, intense, joyous, strenuous, life-altering experience.
However… it’s the short part. Postpartum is the long part, and there are many things to think about and do during pregnancy that could help it be a little smoother. I’ve been thinking about some ideas, particularly focused on mom.
All the basic things in your life are about to become considerably more challenging. Even just going to the bathroom. Not only will you be bleeding and sore, but your baby will still be expecting to be near you 24/7 like in the womb. It takes them quite a while to realize they aren’t still connected to you and be okay with that. I had to hold (and sometimes nurse) my baby while using the bathroom several times. Kinda TMI, but this is a postpartum post, sooo…. Yeah. Postpartum just is TMI. haha.
Anyway, here they are:
1. Food — Make and buy snacks/food that you can eat with one hand with little to no prep. (Also come up with a list of ideas for people who want to help, or church ladies who sign up to bring meals) Enough to get you through (think pregnancy hunger, plus some. You need about 600 extra calories per day) a couple weeks. It sounds silly now, but it’s ridiculously difficult to sit down and eat with two hands like a normal human for the first month + of your baby’s life. Babies don’t like being put down. Like, at ALL. They also like to nurse as close as possible to 24/7, especially during the 2 and 3 week growth spurts. There’ll be a loooot of snacking in bed and on the couch.
Veggie sticks, cheese sticks, berries, small apples, muffins, protein cookies, granola/protein bars, trail mix, peanut butter or almond butter (right off the spoon. you’re a mom now it counts as meal), jerky, liquid soups (drink from a mug), toast, wraps, etc. are some good ones.
2. Shower plan — you’ll need help at first. After that, plan to have Daddy watch Baby while you shower and/or bring him/her in the bathroom in the rock and play. Warn him of this. Haha. Also just be mentally prepared that this is going to be a Thing. It’s not a joke. It’s real.
3. Stock the bathroom — wash cloths, big pads, underwear, peri bottle, Earth Mama Angel Baby bottom spray (that stuff is the best!!!) etc. Also consider a stool softener and/or lots of prunes and other fibrous foods. It was difficult for weeks after giving birth. The drastic change in pressure on your bowels combined with the huge shift in hormones and all the time sitting/lying around causes some serious issues. Not to mention you’re rather sore. A stool also helps.
4. Drinks — you’ll be super thirsty. Tea (EMAB Monthly comfort is very nourishing for your recovering uterus), water, coconut water, recharge, broth, flavored water (with fruit), etc are good to have on hand. I was drinking 4 tervis tumblers a night (my husband was the refill guy, he was amazing) and much more during the day. You’re also going to want plenty of straws or a plastic or stainless straw. And a big water bottle.
***Make sure that before you’re alone for the day you have plenty of water and snacks close by the bed and couch.***
5. Healing — EMAB tea, sitz baths, arnica tablets (helps a lot with muscle soreness and bruising!) EMAB spray, coconut oil plus lavender (2-4 drops with 2 TBSP oil) for any stitches, cold rice sock for engorgement, warm rice sock for aches and pains, etc.
6. Entertainment — shows, kindle books, etc. There’s going to be a LOT of sitting and lying around while nursing or holding a sleeping baby. Embrace this time. Don’t worry about cleaning or anything like that. There’ll be time enough later on. If help is offered, accept it gracefully. Your job is to snuggle and feed and love your baby. That’s IT for the first month, especially, and really the whole first 3 months.
7. Clothes — You’ll need several things that are comfy, easy to nurse in (think button down or super stretchy), pretty-ish, and not maternity (I thought I wouldn’t care, but I really didn’t want to wear maternity after I gave birth) but bigger than normal. 😬 Robes are good, stretchy tunics and leggings are good, tops with short skirts… stuff like that. Also maybe some kind of accessories — new necklace, head band, etc. Something easy to make you feel pretty even in pjs.
Hopefully that is helpful for some of you! 😊
P.S. This isn’t an Earth Mama Angel Baby advertisement, I promise. I just really liked their stuff. Here’s a link to their postpartum goodies.